Mediation is a form of alternative dispute resolution (ADR) that involves the parties who are in dispute meeting with an independent, neutral third party (the mediator) to discuss their issues and reach a mutually acceptable agreement.
It can be a highly effective form of dispute resolution and is frequently used in family law to help separating couples agree on arrangements for children, property and finances.
Family mediation has numerous benefits over the litigation process, generally being quicker, cheaper and resulting in better outcomes than when couples resort to the courts.
However, to get the most out of mediation, it is crucial to go in with the right mindset.
In this blog, our experienced Family Law Solicitors give their top tips for effective mediation in family law disputes.
How to Get the Most Out of Family Mediation
- Go in with an open mind.
Approaching mediation with flexibility and a willingness to see the situation from your ex-partner’s perspective greatly increases the chances of finding common ground.
Family mediation focuses on collaboration by encouraging parties to work together, but only works if everyone involved commits to the process.
It usually takes around five sessions for separating couples to reach an agreement about arrangements for their children and finances. An open mind and believing in the process helps you move from rigid positions to finding solutions that benefit everyone.
- Listen.
Mediation sessions provide an opportunity to hear each other’s point of view and to have your own feelings heard.
Be respectful of your ex-partner’s wishes, and open and considerate in the way you communicate.
Listening to understand rather than respond means you are more likely to engage in productive dialogue.
- Manage your emotions.
It can be extremely difficult to communicate with an ex-partner, particularly if the relationship ended on a bad note.
However, leaving any residual bad feeling at the door allows you to think clearly and communicate effectively.
- Choose the right mediator.
A mediator’s role is not to get couples back together or to take sides.
Rather, a good mediator creates a safe and open environment, keeps discussions focused and balanced, and guides both parties towards finding practical solutions that you can agree on.
Finding the right mediator can make a big difference in the process. When choosing a mediator, you should think about their background, experience and specialisms, to ensure you get the right fit.
You may also need to bear in mind specific practical considerations, such as whether you prefer to meet your mediator face to face or are happy to have sessions online.
The Family Mediation Council (FMC) has a list of family mediators on its website that you can search to find one local to you. Click here to access the FMC’s register.
- Look to the future.
Mediation works best when parties move past old grievances and focus on future possibilities.
It can help to go into each mediation session with a clear idea of what you want to achieve.
By prioritising solutions and focusing on what comes next, separating couples can lay the foundations for better relationships in the future.
Family Law Solicitors Wisbech
Mediation is a great way of resolving disputes between separating partners and other individuals without resorting to the courts.
It is quicker, cheaper and far less stressful than the litigation process, frequently producing better outcomes for everyone involved.
If you have separated from your child’s parent and are struggling to agree on arrangements, get in touch with Bowsers Solicitors.
Our dedicated specialists provide legal advice to individuals and families across March, Wisbech and wider Cambridgeshire, Lincolnshire and Norfolk to help resolve financial and other matters that arise following a separation.
We will take time to understand your situation and advise on the best way to proceed, always prioritising any children involved.
If you are looking for family law legal advice, please contact our experienced family solicitors and chartered legal executives today on 01945 583194 (Wisbech) or 01354 652606 (March), or email reception@bowsers.co.uk.
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