Some forms of abuse involved in domestic violence can be very insidious and difficult to spot.
While you may expect domestic violence to be purely physical and visible, this is not always the case. Coercive control is one of the different types of domestic violence that you may not immediately see – either as a concerned party or even as a victim.
What Is Coercive Control?
You may wonder “is coercive control domestic violence?” or “what is coercive and controlling behaviour?” There are many types of domestic violence used in coercive behaviour/control. These can include isolating the victim from friends and family and controlling how they spend their time or stalking their movements. It may also include monitoring social media accounts or controlling finances (extending to preventing the victim from working) or even limiting food. While these are some less noticeable kinds of control, you might also encounter threats and damage being done to property.
When it comes to coercive behaviour, it is important to note that this will not be a single incident. Rather, it is a pattern of incidents that reoccur time and time again.
Is A Relationship Unhealthy
Coercive control can be one element of an unhealthy relationship. There are many signs that you should look for, such as not being able to do as you wish at all, or without consequences. A domestic abuser may blame you for their behaviour and make it clear that your unhappiness is unimportant to them. All of these signs should be taken seriously as the domestic abuse that they are, even if they never lead to physical violence. Mental and emotional abuse is just as damaging and difficult to escape.
There are many different places you can reach out to, both online and via telephone. These include:
- Refuge’s National Domestic Abuse Helpline on 0808 2000 247
- Men’s Advice Line on 0808 801 0327
- The Bright Sky app (suitable for both victims and concerned parties)
- Women’s aid local support services directory, also available at firstname.lastname@example.org.
- Victim Support at 08 08 16 89 111.
Look for the ‘Ask for ANI’ logo in a pharmacy. ‘ANI’ stands for Action Needed Immediately, and when you ask for ‘ANI’, you will be led to a private space where you can safely make phone calls for help.
How We Can Help
Are you a domestic abuse victim unsure of your rights or how to seek the right protections? Bowsers Solicitors can help. Get in touch with us for advice on what you can do next and how we can support you in seeking safety and support away from your situation.
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